Best Proposal EVER

While talking with friends on topics of men, marriage and family, I suddenly blurted out how I wanted a marriage contract to have an expiry date. Friends looked at me then as if I’ve suddenly grown horns with a tail to match. Nyahaha.

Don’t you think it’s just absolutely ridiculous to be tied to someone for the rest of your life when you don’t even know for sure how your brain will be wired a year from today? I mean, I don’t have the same ideas anymore as when I was still in my 20s. Besides, since most women crave for security in life, wouldn’t it be a true test of trust and your commitment with each other if there’s no legal contract binding you two together? I missed the days when a man’s word is his bond.

Anyway, have you seen the movie 4 Weddings and a Funeral? It’s an old movie and Hugh Grant isn’t that hot yet but his proposal to the woman he loved really struck me deep. I think if you forget the bothersome government red tapes and all the troubles that a wedding ceremony entails, what really matters between couples is CHOOSING to grow old together.

Below is the best proposal EVER:
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(Huge Grant): But first let me ask you one thing.
Do you think, after we’ve dried off,
after we’ve spent lots more time together,
you might agree…
NOT to marry me?
And do you think NOT being married to me
might maybe be something
you could consider doing for the rest of your life?

Do you?

(Me, in my dreams): I do.

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I know! Mom will NOT care about this opinion EVER. She got married TWICE after all – Civil and Church wedding.

Life is a Cross-stitch

Mom started cross-stitching a family picture of my sister, her son and boyfriend since late March of 2011 and she still have a long way to go. She hoped to finish it before April so she could send it over to Belgium in time for nephew’s birthday.

I once joked and told mom that my sister and her boyfriend is going to break up. She didn’t look happy at all. She said, “What will happen to this cross-stitch now? Your sister wouldn’t want to see this anymore since her boyfriend is in the picture!” And I said, “Well, nobody pointed a gun at you to make this cross-stitch in the first place anyway”. Nyahaha.

Have you seen a cross-stitched framed picture up close? While working on this, mom would wonder why there were a few pink dots on certain places that looked outrageously out of place in the shades of brown but putting her trust on the pattern we got from internet program, she carried on with it still while trying to ignore the “misplaced colors”. Only by looking at the cross-stitch from far that we could see what a nice touch those “misplaced pinks” have created. It’s interesting how all the chaotic colors have come together in place to create something nice at the final scene.

Chaos is the new Sexy!

When People Walk Away…

Once there was a man who loved me so much that he had to leave. Does that make any sense? Unfortunately, it is what is.

Since one of my sources for all things positive is no longer around, I thought to compensate his absence by googling for positive words.

I don’t know who is the original of these words if it’s really T.D. Jakes but I definitely got it from Raleigh.ohsohandy.  I like it so much that I’d like to have a copy for me to easily get back to.

LET IT GO By T. D. Jakes 

There are people who can walk away from you.

Let it Go!

And hear me when I tell you this! When people can walk away from you: let them walk. I don’t want you to try to talk another person into staying with you, loving you, calling you, caring about you, coming to see you, staying attached to you. I mean hang up the phone.

When people can walk away from you let them walk.

Your destiny is never tied to anybody that left.

The bible said that, they came out from us that it might be made manifest that they were not for us. For had they been of us, no doubt they would have
continued with us. [1 John 2:19]

People leave you because they are not joined to you.

And if they are not joined to you, you can’t make them stay.

Let them go.

And it doesn’t mean that they are a bad person it just means that their part in the story is over. And you’ve got to know when people’s part in your story is over so that you don’t keep trying to raise the dead.

You’ve got to know when it’s dead. You’ve got to know when it’s over.

Let me tell you something. I’ve got the gift of good-bye. It’s the tenth spiritual gift, I believe in good-bye. It’s not that I’m hateful, it’s that I’m faithful, and I know whatever God means for me to have He’ll give it to me.

And if it takes too much sweat I don’t need it. Stop begging people to stay.

Let them go!!

If you are holding on to something that doesn’t belong to you and was never intended for your life, then you need to……

LET IT GO!!!

If you are holding on to past hurts and pains …..

LET IT GO!!!

If someone can’t treat you right, love you back, and see your worth…..

LET IT GO!!!

If someone has angered you ……..

LET IT GO!!!

If you are holding on to some thoughts of evil and revenge……

LET IT GO!!!

If you are involved in a wrong relationship or addiction……

LET IT GO!!!

If you are holding on to a job that no longer meets your needs or talents ….

LET IT GO!!!

If you have a bad attitude…….

LET IT GO!!!

If you keep judging others to make yourself feel better……

LET IT GO!!!

If you’re stuck in the past and God is trying to take you to a new level in Him……

LET IT GO!!!

If you are struggling with the healing of a broken relationship…….

LET IT GO!!!

If you keep trying to help someone who won’t even try to help themselves……

LET IT GO!!!

If you’re feeling depressed and stressed …….

LET IT GO!!!

If there is a particular situation that you are so used to handling yourself
and God is saying “take your hands off of it,”

then you need to……

LET IT GO!!!

Let the past be the past. Forget the former things.

GOD is doing a new thing for you!!!

LET IT GO!!!

Get Right or Get Left
… think about it, and then ….

LET IT GO!!

I Miss You

The night before my flight back to Philippines, I was so sad that I cried in my room. The reality hit me in the face! I’m leaving and I don’t know when I’ll see them again and I’m going to miss them very much.

Since I don’t want to go downstairs where my sister and fre was to tell mom how sad I was and risk being seen looking like an idiot, there was only one person I could think of to contact and confide my sorrow state.

You know what was said that for some reason, gave me comfort?

Our time with others is always LIMITED

That’s the fact of life that made every second sweeter I think. My sister once asked me if I am not yet tired with nephew’s antics and my response was, I don’t have the luxury to get tired because I’ll be leaving soon.

With this thought, I crept to nephew’s room one night and took a picture of him while he slept like an angel.

Here are some of my memories with nephew that I love:
- Nephew dancing in the car to the tune of Sweet Like Cola by Lou Bega
- Nephew’s wet kisses when I fall asleep at Oma’s house
- Nephew screaming “bang bang bang”
- Nephew helping me wash the dishes that gets me in trouble sometimes
- Nephew slapping my butt (to mimic Fre i think who slaps my sister’s butt)
- Nephew’s big hug before he sleeps

There’s a saying that no one forgets their first love but this isn’t true in my case. Mine was perhaps the ultimate jerk in the whole world and it’s embarrassing to talk about it with anyone especially parents. Thankfully, I have a sister who helped me out when I was at my bottom. I believe that every woman should have a sister and I’m proud that my sister was her.

Seeing her again after 6 long years felt a bit weird. You have to understand that BOTH of us were raised by parents who aren’t the most positive people in the whole world so it’s hard to express positive feelings at all. Although my sister was out of parent’s hair for years now but I’m still very much stuck with them so I get psyched about being careful with sister and setting them apart. My sister would have none of that however so it was very touching to be welcomed into the fold and be treated like a family.

Here are some of my memories with sister that I love:
- Sister takes time to do my hair
- Sister removing white heads on my nose (nyahaha)
- Sister making me orange juice (but my response was, it tastes like medicine)
- Sister asking me to join the family circle at Ardennes park
- Sister showing me how to make leche flan and others
- Sister taking time to show me the castle though the weather was bad

I’m happy to see my family in Belgium and I’m happy that Fre is with them now.

I may not be able to convey verbally well or show them with my actions that I love them but I do, somewhere inside. And I know parents do too, at least in their own weird backward way.

JigSaw Puzzle Love

How do you know that a person loves you?

In my opinion, most girls are a sucker for grand gestures. This could involve anything from slaying a “dragon” for you, buying you the most expensive diamond ring, flying to the moon and back just to see you or declaring his commitment by asking you to marry him. Small and simple things tend to be considered negligible that if you don’t do anything grand once in a while, girl could possibly start nagging about how you don’t love her anymore.

This phenomenon is NOT completely exclusive to the female gender.

Have you met a man who also demanded that you prove your love to him? Like he wanted you to jump the hoops too just so he could be assured that you love him for him and that you aren’t after his bank account, green card, citizenship, his body or whatever. If you haven’t met one yet, count yourself lucky as it could be quite suffocating.

And then as always, there are people whose maturity is already at the next level:

Ash: How can you know for sure I really love you?
Pokemon: I chose you and you chose me back that’s why we are together. I have decided to believe and to trust you because I love you.

Aw! What a pair!

Before

 Before I met you there was a piece of me missing. I didn’t know what it was or where it was but I always felt it.

After

After I met you I knew what that piece was and I’m glad it’s you.